I still think I am compatible only with orgasmic bisexual
by nature women, but it could be that I am compatible
with orgasmic bisexual and orgasmic straight women.

Also I am not attracted to just young beautiful women,
I am also attracted to some ugly and/or fat and/or
older women. (Two examples of much older women I
am attracted to are Alice Munro and Judi Dench.)

So far I have tried matchmaking site Zoosk, where
I was too open and honest and had no luck, and
matchmaking site OK Cupid, which has few local
women and where I have had no luck (I am occasionally
chatting with one atheist vegetarian non-smoker
Sarah McLachlan fan but she I think was turned
off when I said I was pagan). I might perhaps
give match.ca a try for a month soon but I will
be less open in my profile if I do, and I will
try to get a better picture to put up first.

What are some of the strikes against me, that
might turn off women between the ages of 40
and 55?

1. I don't have a job (other than a few part-time hours),
2. I am on welfare,
3. I have a major mental illness and think I am
similar to past religious figures,
4. I don't have a driver's license,
5. I don't have a place of my own; I share a house,
5. I am pagan,
6. I am 50 and have grey hair and glasses and am
thirty pounds overweight and out of shape,
7. I am sexually inexperienced and haven't had sex
in 28 years and haven't had an orgasm during sex,
8. Though I like to dance, I am not very good at it,
9. I am a poor conversationalist, rarely approach
women in bars, and am shy,
10. I am a night person and into live music and many
of the women on the dating sites are couch
potatoes and/or outdoor types not into bars,
11. I think I am compatible only with orgasmic bisexual
by nature women, or possibly only with orgasmic
bisexual and orgasmic straight women,
12. I still have a strong affection for Sarah McLachlan
even though we last interacted 19 years ago,
and some affection for other celebrity women,
13. The pictures I put up on the dating sites were
taken with an iPhone 4 and weren't as good
as they could be.

So I figure that opening up about those points in
a dating profile or first meeting would be inadvisable,
but I would plan to open up about them gradually after
meeting a woman for a few times.

I'll try and discuss the matter a little with my
psychiatrist on October 1.

--
David Dalton dalton@nfld.com http://www.nfld.com/~dalton (home page)
http://www.nfld.com/~dalton/dtales.html Salmon on the Thorns (mystic page)
"I see my light come shining/From the west unto the east
Any day now, any day now/I shall be released" (Bob Dylan)

David Dalton wrote:
> I still think I am compatible only with orgasmic bisexual
> by nature women, but it could be that I am compatible
> with orgasmic bisexual and orgasmic straight women.
>
> Also I am not attracted to just young beautiful women,
> I am also attracted to some ugly and/or fat and/or
> older women. (Two examples of much older women I
> am attracted to are Alice Munro and Judi Dench.)
>
> So far I have tried matchmaking site Zoosk, where
> I was too open and honest and had no luck, and
> matchmaking site OK Cupid, which has few local
> women and where I have had no luck (I am occasionally
> chatting with one atheist vegetarian non-smoker
> Sarah McLachlan fan but she I think was turned
> off when I said I was pagan). I might perhaps
> give match.ca a try for a month soon but I will
> be less open in my profile if I do, and I will
> try to get a better picture to put up first.
>
> What are some of the strikes against me, that
> might turn off women between the ages of 40
> and 55?
>
> 1. I don't have a job (other than a few part-time hours),
> 2. I am on welfare,
> 3. I have a major mental illness and think I am
> similar to past religious figures,
> 4. I don't have a driver's license,
> 5. I don't have a place of my own; I share a house,
> 5. I am pagan,
> 6. I am 50 and have grey hair and glasses and am
> thirty pounds overweight and out of shape,
> 7. I am sexually inexperienced and haven't had sex
> in 28 years and haven't had an orgasm during sex,
> 8. Though I like to dance, I am not very good at it,
> 9. I am a poor conversationalist, rarely approach
> women in bars, and am shy,
> 10. I am a night person and into live music and many
> of the women on the dating sites are couch
> potatoes and/or outdoor types not into bars,
> 11. I think I am compatible only with orgasmic bisexual
> by nature women, or possibly only with orgasmic
> bisexual and orgasmic straight women,
> 12. I still have a strong affection for Sarah McLachlan
> even though we last interacted 19 years ago,
> and some affection for other celebrity women,
> 13. The pictures I put up on the dating sites were
> taken with an iPhone 4 and weren't as good
> as they could be.
>
> So I figure that opening up about those points in
> a dating profile or first meeting would be inadvisable,
> but I would plan to open up about them gradually after
> meeting a woman for a few times.
>
> I'll try and discuss the matter a little with my
> psychiatrist on October 1.

Dave -

I've pretty much abandoned Usenet for Reddit, mainly because that's
where the people are, so let me offer up some suggestions based on that.

There are a number of communities on Reddit for the support and
discussion of a number of different issues, but the salient point is
that you can hang out in a support group for the purpose of trying to
feel better about your lot in life, or you can hang out in a support
group that will challenge you to become better.

You're stuck with the grey hair, but you can learn better diet and
nutrition to lose weight (http://reddit.com/r/loseit),
and you can exercise (/r/fitness, /r/fitnessover30).

I suggested /r/theredpill the other day. There are a lot of morons on
that group, but there is a small core of regulars who understand the
concept of working toward self-betterment. There is also /r/sex,
/r/relationships, and several related groups for people dealing with
depression and related mental illnesses.

I'm sure that it seems like a circular puzzle: you can't date until you
feel better about yourself, but you'd feel better about yourself if you
were dating. I can tell you that in this case, the egg does come before
the chicken: You need to feel better about yourself, and that generally
comes with improving your health and well-being.

Best of luck.

--
Tom Allen
http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com

I don't have multiple orgasms, myself. However, I am known to be a carrier.

On another group someone suggested that I see a prostitute.

No, I'm not interested in prostitutes. They are
too rushed and clinical, and not interested in
their own sexual pleasure, and I would find it
degrading for the woman, and I don't think I
would be aroused unless the woman was aroused
as well. Also I would prefer to get to know
my next partner well before attempting sex.
Also I am poor.

--
David Dalton dalton@nfld.com http://www.nfld.com/~dalton (home page)
http://www.nfld.com/~dalton/dtales.html Salmon on the Thorns (mystic page)
"I see my light come shining/From the west unto the east
Any day now, any day now/I shall be released" (Bob Dylan)

David Dalton wrote:
> On another group someone suggested that I see a prostitute.

I went to a shrink
To analyze my dreams
She says it's lack of sex
That's bringing me down
I went to a whore
He said my life's a bore
So quit my whining cause
It's bringing her down

-- Green Day, "Basket Case."

Heh heh. Sorry, it just slipped out.

--
Tom Allen
http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com

I don't have multiple orgasms, myself. However, I am known to be a carrier.